Grayson Murray's Message to Jay Monahan Last Year Brings Tears to Many

Grayson Murray knew the pain of lacking support.

by Sead Dedovic
Grayson Murray's Message to Jay Monahan Last Year Brings Tears to Many
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It's been nine days since Grayson Murray's death, and the golf world is still in shock, struggling to accept the loss of the golfer who left a significant mark on the golf scene. The 30-year-old decided to take his own life after battling depression and anxiety for years. Recently, it seemed that Grayson was making progress and was on a good path to fully recover.

In January of this year, he openly spoke about feeling much better, ready to achieve positive results in the golf scene. His death, as we've mentioned, has left a mark on everyone. 

Jay Monahan, PGA Tour commissioner, is one of those who reacted to the news of Grayson Murray's death, expressing condolences to the family.

The PGA Tour commissioner admitted to being heartbroken after Murray's death, considering the popular golfer was part of the PGA Tour and, therefore, a member of one big family.

"We were devastated to learn – and are heartbroken to share – that PGA TOUR player Grayson Murray passed away this morning. I am at a loss for words. The PGA TOUR is a family, and when you lose a member of your family, you are never the same. We mourn Grayson and pray for comfort for his loved ones."- Jay Monahan said, as quoted by PGA Tour.

The PGA Tour commissioner decided to offer condolences to the family, after which Murray's family stated their intention to continue playing tournaments despite everything.

“I reached out to Grayson’s parents to offer our deepest condolences, and during that conversation, they asked that we continue with tournament play. They were adamant that Grayson would want us to do so. As difficult as it will be, we want to respect their wishes.”- he continued.

Jay Monahan
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Grayson Murray's tweets about PGA Tour leaders

Despite Monahan's sadness, shortly after the 30-year-old's death, old tweets from Grayson surfaced online, where he spoke about how the PGA Tour never provided him with help. Murray also emphasized that neither the commissioner nor anyone else in the PGA Tour's hierarchy showed interest in him. Deep down, Murray was frustrated by such an approach from the top officials.

"No the PGA Tour didn't force me to drink," he wrote in 2021.  

"But the PGA Tour never gave me help.

In my five years of experience of being on Tour not once have I ever had a request been acknowledged by the commissioner of the PAC other than, 'We will get back to you'."

Some of his colleagues then decided to talk to him and offer their help and willingness to listen to his problems. The support from his colleagues was crucial for Murray in his struggle. Many offered him support and congratulated him on the courage to publicly address his mental health issues. His example has been followed by many athletes and celebrities both before and after that.

Grayson Murray's message to Jay Monahan

Grayson Murray wasn't pleased with Monahan's behavior last year when the PGA Tour commissioner confirmed the framework agreement with PIF (LIV Golf). Many golfers, including Grayson, couldn't comprehend why Monahan chose to remain silent about the deal, failing to inform the players about what was happening behind the scenes. This was the moment when Monahan incurred the anger of everyone. Following such events, the PGA Tour commissioner decided to take a break, stating that he needed time off due to huge stress, pressure from all sides, and media scrutiny. Monahan struggled to cope with daily criticisms, likely aware that things could and should have been handled differently.

Grayson Murray
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After some time, Monahan returned, and the message Murray sent him evoked an emotional reaction from many. Despite not having had the necessary support at many moments throughout his career and life, not only from PGA Tour leaders but also from colleagues and many others, Murray knew the pain of lacking support. That's one of the reasons why this amazing golfer decided to send a message to Monahan, wishing him well and emphasizing that everything would be okay.

"A line in that text will always stay with me -- 'Jay I just want you to get healthy. I know everything is going to work out for our tour and for the better."- Jay Monahan said.

 The PGA Tour commissioner emphasized that in moments when he felt pressure from all sides, such a message was incredibly helpful to him. Monahan will never forget such a gesture from Murray, where Grayson showed kindness. In addition to being a great golfer, he was also a great person.

"He offered not condemnation but compassion. Instead of walking away from me, he offered to walk with me.

I'll always be thankful for this act of kindness, and I'm not alone."

Jay Monahan