Bane Bradonic: “Stability and change are cornerstones of our personality”



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Bane Bradonic: “Stability and change are cornerstones of our personality”


Imagine a sailboat with a leak. It's perfectly normal to focus on the leak and fix it very quickly. If not, the risk of going under with the sailboat is very high. However, we shouldn't focus exclusively on our "personal leaks"

To achieve a goal, it is not enough just to stop the leak.

You have to set sail and pick up speed. The “story of the leak” serves as a model for personal weaknesses. “Setting sail and picking up speed”, on the other hand, stand for personal strengths.

Only the persistent use of our personal strengths enables us to achieve our goals!

Both stability and change are reflected in the personality. The stable aspect of personality - the psychological core - provides the structure we need to act effectively.

While the behavioral aspect of personality allows for change and learning!

Human strengths are shaped by genes and environment. In the course of life, every person develops personal signature strengths. Our weaknesses and strengths are revealed in our behavior.

Even if a strength profile is relatively stable over time for each person, it is also possible to change the behavioral aspect.

We can learn to use our weakness and strength profiles differently. Also, we can always look for new and different ways to put our strengths in a “better” light.

This aspect is so important because our self-image is the result of a combination of different weaknesses and strengths.

The expression of our identity is as individual as a fingerprint. Just as people differ in their personality, they also differ in their individual strength profiles. That is, when we focus less on our weaknesses and more on our strengths, we automatically change our self-image in a positive way.

A more positive self-image has far-reaching implications for how we act.

People with a positive self-image are typically more self-confident, have more confidence, act more consistently and thus achieve their goals faster or even surpass them, on and off the tennis court.

However, there is one important point to note here: Aristotle already pointed out that "more" does not automatically mean "better"

If individual strengths are used exaggeratedly, their effect can also change qualitatively to the negative.

Therefore, he referred to "a golden medium", which means nothing else that there is an optimal level of competence.

This "golden mean" can be defined for each individual strength. For example, if you like to play fast and want to score points yourself, then a prudent approach to “playing boldly” would be the golden mean.

To play aggressively all the time would, according to Aristotle, be an exaggeration and to be consistently defensive would be an understatement of their potential.

We can only get better and live up to our potential if we find the "golden mean"!

Finally, in concrete situations of daily life several strengths are always required. From the perspective of practical wisdom, a meaningful interaction of all inner forces is required.

The primary goal should therefore be to use one's own strengths in a meaningful and targeted manner with regard to the BIG WHOLE!

Seen in this way, penguins are more than a subtle efficiency metaphor.

They open our perception of vitality that needs to be applied every day. And if we should be in the water, figuratively speaking, we are happy. If not, let's just waddle off towards the ocean!

Thank you for sharing Bane!