If I like it, if I want it, why shouldn't I have it? Isn’t that good?
Instant gratification is excellent. If I want a chocolate, a hot shower, a cake, a vacation, or even a victory, when do I want it? When do I feel I want to have these pleasures? NOW, NOW, NOW… thank you so much for not making me wait!!
Instant gratification is why I'm always on the phone. The smartphone gives me more pleasure than all previous cell phones did. Modern life is designed to give me instant pleasure.
But I ask myself: am I satisfied with this? Can instant gratification satisfy me? No, it does not.
It still makes me want more. What was satisfying yesterday, today makes me unhappy, and tomorrow makes me sad.
What if I have to wait for what I want?
Waiting makes me tense, makes me nervous, and agitates me, and I'm in a hurry.
Contextualising this in terms of tennis, I often lose because I don't know how to have patience, and because I can't control myself.
Instant gratification makes me thirsty, which leads to hunger, frustration, dissatisfaction, and ultimately, I feel empty and deceived.
I have everything I've ever wanted and yet I'm miserable.
Instant gratification is suffering disguised as pleasure.
Things of value take time, it takes patience, training, and self-control: DISCIPLINE.
When I grant these wishes, I feel satisfied, I feel I have accomplished something, I feel it was worth it.
Why, so? Because this process’ concerned more with my becoming and my formation, than what I get immediately and without any “sacrifice”. In conclusion, I would like to leave you an operational lineup on the essential points to remember in order to cultivate this superpower when you find yourself in a critical moment, that is, facing a crossroads.
- Make the value of the future result aware
- Originate the intention and act with an act of will
- Let something go now for a future good (sacrifice)
- Make the action pleasant (drawing on the many forms of pleasure)
- Focus on the steps of the path and on the increase in the desired direction (shortens the feedback loop)
- Constancy in action (keep the momentum)