I never said to myself: I have to win a Grand Slam, you have to be top 10 or top 5. I never dreamed of winning a Grand Slam, it wasn't even my goal.
For me the only goal was to PROGRESS, to do the work necessary to have a chance to defeat any player.
The goal was to work well and love this job every day. This was my real talent !!
Before winning the youth Roland Garros, I was a good player, but I was not among the best of my age in the youth categories.
Even in Switzerland, I have never won national championships, and this, I think is something to consider, which then turned out to be positive.
Young people, and especially parents, shouldn't give so much importance to results in advance.
The career of a player is too long to immediately give importance to the results or rankings being still children.
The fact that I never went to my head as a young man because I wasn't strong motivated me to work harder than the others who were more skilled and already managed to win a lot. This has been my strength!
I have always enjoyed spending many hours on the pitch and training my body to try to overcome my limits. "
Research indicates that on average it takes a person 66 days to start a new habit. Basically there are not many, but obviously too many for all those who want an immediate result.
Yes, because the real obstacle to the change process is an excessive desire for results and the results are what you achieve over time but, in the beginning, they cannot be what fuels the change.
We all consciously come to understand this, but emotionally we fall into the trap instead.
After all, it is always the emotions that give a more or less positive trend to our path.
If we associate a negative emotion such as fatigue with the new habit of playing sports and instead a positive one such as relaxation on the sofa with the old habit of being sedentary, it is clear that we will always go in search of what we like.
If, on the contrary, we make sure that playing sports results in an emotion of energy, positivity and vitality and that being stuck on the sofa represents boredom and laziness, then we will be more likely to give space to the new habit.
How you do it? By increasing one's awareness, listening to oneself and then intervening to direct our thoughts in the right direction. Over time this also becomes automatic.
Finally, it is good to remember that there are at least 3 fundamental rules to follow to change habits:
1- Replace an old habit with a new one and don't try to break the wrong one.
2- Meticulously plan the first 2 months and do not give up because the new habit is formed in this period of time.
3- Focus on the process and not the results. Walking every day must become a source of pleasure and not just the idea of losing pounds, just to give an example.