But how do you talk to yourself?



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But how do you talk to yourself?

What is meant by SELF-EFFICIENCY? Psychology designates an individual's belief in his or her ability to be successful. Our belief system has a huge impact on our self-esteem, so we need to examine it closely to see and identify any irrational and limiting beliefs that could sabotage our goals.

For example: some tennis players believe it is shameful to lose. However, defeat is part of the tennis player's life. If children had been afraid of failure, they would never have learned to walk. Believing in ourselves will not make us winners every time, but it can help put us in a better position to be able to win: to have more weapons to win.

We need to examine our beliefs and convictions and work on them. If we fail to visualise ourselves being successful or if we think we are not worth enough to succeed, we risk self-destruction. One must also take care of one's own inner dialogue.

Thoughts become words, words turn into actions, actions become habits, habits convert into personality, and our personality becomes our destiny. We must, therefore, learn to listen to our inner voice and determine if it is encouraging us or leading us towards destruction.

Everything starts from our thoughts. We must learn to use our inner voice in a constructive and proactive way. What we say affects how we feel and how we feel affects our behaviour. We must, therefore, be able to control our emotions because then we would have control over everything: on how we will hit a shot, on how we will manage anxieties or fears...

on how to play a point. If we let ourselves be clouded by anger (for example), our performance will never improve. On the contrary, it will inexorably decline. We will no longer be lucid; we will be distracted and be careless about how to play a shot or a point.

The same is true when we are too euphoric. Before we can think about how to manage or control our performance, we must learn to control both our thoughts and emotions. It is much more useful to think, "How can I solve this problem?" instead of, "This problem is destroying me!" We can only be able to do this work of control through training.