Developing Positive Self Esteem

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Developing Positive Self Esteem

We can talk for hours and hours but self esteem boils down to one thing: WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF!

No matter where I go or who I talk to your chances of any success starts with you. You have two simple options. You can either be positive or negative.

I have been doing motivational speeches throughout the world and I have learned so much about what it takes to capture the attention of the audience.
You must demonstrate that you know who you are by not only your appearance but in the manner in which you deliver your speech. Also, in how you answer questions to your audience. In today’s world it is not an easy task to secure a job, my advice to all of you is to be confident when you are being interviewed. Make sure you have positive body language by looking at the interviewer and answering questions with total confidence.

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Judging yourself by things in which you have no control is setting yourself up for a negative situation. You need to know and believe you are unique and special. You must be able to separate the quality of your performance from your overall worth as a person. You should be able to counter and elimate ways of viewing activities in your life.

Quite often we make judgments about who we are based on what people tell us about ourselves. You must not get yourself in situations where you are judged by only one activity. When this happens it takes away your spirit to be involved in a other activities. You must also be realistic in what you can do. Yes, I want you to be a big-big dreamer but don’t overdo it. If you do you will have nightmares.

I have been involved in sports most of my life as well as viewing all facts of life, do not try to be successful over night. Your progress should be one step at a time. By doing this you will accomplish many of your goals.

It is important to recognize your anxiety, accept it, and take steps to reduce it. Identify irrational believes and get rid of them.

Substitute an appropriate belief for each irrational one. Negative self-talk usually leads to lowered self-esteem. Positive self-talk means that you make statements that put you in a positive light. Believe me, if you start thinking this way and talking this way your self-esteem will climb and climb and if it falls down at times don’t panic. Slow down, take a deep breath and tell yourself you can and will do it.

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One of my favorite parts of my speeches no matter who sits in the audience is my story about me and what I think of myself: Recently my wife, Cindi, redid our villa with special attention to the inside. No matter what direction you go, all the walls have mirrors. My two adopted sons asked their mom why there are so many mirrors. What did she answer? “Your father loves looking at himself and saying over and over ‘I am the best and can do whatever I have to do.’”

Oh yes, I even see those mirrors when I dream.

Nick Bollettieri