What drives you to pursue a goal?
Many successful personalities consider the goal of their ambition to be unattainable; they are never satisfied with their results and never rest on their laurels. However, it is precisely this feeling of dissatisfaction that drives them, that gives them that impulse of continuous struggle towards improvement. In a nutshell, they find it rewarding to hunt down something they feel is extremely important and about which they are passionate.
Another main characteristic of successful individuals is the awareness of a direction, not only are they determined but they also know, without a shadow of a doubt, what they are aiming for and what they want. It can therefore be said that it is the combination of passion and perseverance that generates what we call: grit.
Why do some individuals fail and others succeed?
The society in which we live very often considers natural talent as a more precious resource than hard work and perseverance, it is a widespread idea to consider a genius or a natural talent who has reached a high level of execution in a certain field and not take into account the hard work that has produced such a result. But is natural talent, what we achieve without any apparent effort, really the only ingredient for success?
Champions are exceptional as they demonstrate unusual skill coupled with deep zeal and the ability not to be frightened by hard work.
Mankind is not making the most of its potential and only exceptional individuals work hard to put it into action. Most of humanity prefers to believe that natural talent is the only explanation for an athlete or musician's incredible achievement, as if there is something magical going on, that way the rest of us can relax in the status quo, deciding that it is impossible to reach high levels by mere perseverance. So, do we have to think that we all have the same potential to improve in any area? No, certainly some of us can learn something faster than others, but talent isn't the only ingredient that determines success.
Commitment is incredibly important, so the following two equations explain it better: talent + commitment = skill, where talent is how quickly we can learn a skill through commitment; skill + commitment = result, where the result is what you get when you put your acquired skills to good use. According to these two equations, talent is important for obtaining a result but commitment is needed doubly and it is in fact the latter that determines the growth of our skills and makes them productive to achieve a result.
It is precisely this idea of constant commitment to something you love that determines determination. It is easy to start different activities and commit yourself for a day or two, but without perseverance or passion you will never get any results. Without commitment, talent is nothing more than untapped potential, whereas with commitment it becomes a skill, with continuous effort then making the ability productive.
Passion and perseverance determine determination, but how do we discover our ultimate goal?
Passion is what gives us direction. When we feel lost and unsure what our ultimate goal or interest is, it can be helpful to imagine our goals as a hierarchy, a gimmick used by Seattle Seahawks football team manager Pete Carroll. At the base level of the hierarchy, you can enter short-term objectives, such as writing an e-mail, these are objectives that allow you to reach a second goal, the more you climb in the hierarchy the more the objective becomes abstract and an end in itself…
Grit means keeping the same end goal for a long time, making it your philosophy of life. When you have your goals defined in a clear hierarchy, you realize that grit does not mean achieving every single low-level goal, of course you will still have to try but it is not necessary to achieve every goal which is just a means to a more important end. Giving up low-level goals is actually necessary when you can replace them with simpler ones that lead to the same end by making the path easier, reasonable, or even more fun.
Can you increase your grit?
Grit, like any other human trait, is influenced by genetics and experiences, so it can increase or decrease. This means that the differences in tenacity among individuals can be attributed in part to the individual genetic factors in each of us and in part to life experiences.
During the growth very often the message that parents pass on to their children is that following their dreams or their passions is not the right strategy if you want to achieve a comfortable or successful life. However, research shows that individuals lead more rewarding and fulfilling lives if they work towards something they love or that matches their interests, and they also work harder and with better results. So, the first step to increase one's determination is to do something that interests us. However, we must not believe that each of us knows what fascinates us from birth.
“Our potential is one thing. How we use it is another matter entirely. "
An important aspect of the process of birth of a passion is to understand that interest in its initial phase does not automatically generate an obsession to improve, but starts as a game. It is after this discovery that the development phase takes place. If you want to develop an interest but have no idea where to start, the first step is to discover, ask yourself what you like to think about, what you care about and how you like to spend your time.
Grit doesn't just mean spending time continuously practicing your interest, it also affects the quality of time spent practicing it.
Experts set a goal, a specific weakness upon which they want to improve and continue to practice and challenge themselves in that area until they can perfectly perform what they previously had problems with, at which point they set themselves a new goal. for improvement. It can therefore be said that experts are more interested in their mistakes and not in what they do correctly. To learn how to make the most of deliberate practice, you must:
1. define a goal;
3. receive immediate feedback on your performance;
4. repeat and refine one's skill;
5. make deliberate practice a habit;
6. learn to accept the challenge instead of fear it.
"Deliberate practice is an element that predicts progress in the final rounds of competitions far better than any other practice."
Gritty individuals combine interest with a greater purpose. This is the desire to contribute to the well-being of others with their work. The deep meaning of the end is that what we do is not only important to ourselves but also to other people. Patterns of grit show greater motivation in seeking a life with greater meaning. This does not mean that gritty individuals only undertake certain jobs that have as their purpose helping others, such as: doctor, nurse etc..., the job title is not important, but the idea you have of your job.
The end is the answer to the question: "Why am I doing this?" Only when you love your job will the desire to help others generate more grit.
Grit depends on the hope that our actions and commitment can have an effect and improve the future. The hope of spirited individuals is not related to luck but to perseverance. Usually, the models of grit are individuals who have a positive mentality and have a more optimistic view of adversity, they do not give up at the first hurdle but continue to persevere. When you keep trying to improve your situation, you have a high chance of finding a solution, when you assume, with a negative attitude, that there is no solution, then you will stop trying and realize exactly what you believe in.
The more persistent you are, the more likely you are to have a healthy and happy emotional life.
Individuals with a fixed mentality basically believe that they cannot change or improve, so they will interpret all adversities or setbacks in a negative way as proof that you do not have the right stuff. A mentality of growth instead leads you to believe that with commitment you can always do better, where difficulties will be seen in a more positive light as challenges to be overcome, which in turn will make you stronger. Hope, optimism and the mentality of growth teach us not to give up and to persevere.