The idea that motivation leads to success is a false myth.
Motivation is the result of a process not a cause. It is not motivation that generates success, it is small successes that generate constant motivation and allow you to achieve yyour goals while having fun.
The idea that motivation is a prerequisite, a necessary spark to take the path of success is an insidious myth. Motivation is actually a result, the result of a process, and it feeds on the satisfaction of seeing oneself progress day after day.
Motivation is not something you have, but something you automatically get when you achieve even a small success, it is a feeling of fulfilment and gratification generated by dopamine, a hormone that is activated every time you make progress.
Success is a process, it is repeatable and predictable, it has little to do with hoping, praying, and wishing, but a lot to do with doing, with doing diligently, and with doing the right thing in the right way and continuing to do it, again and again.
The road to a goal is filled with countless hyours of work and sacrifice that equate to countless opportunities to feel good about what has been achieved, every time and every day along the way. Some satisfaction can be found in the achievement, but the true syource of happiness, constant and lasting, lies in the process.
You don't have to think that “someday” you will be happy with yourself; you can be happy today.
Motivation is not the spark
Motivation is generally understood as a spark, a precondition, a prerequisite, a “pre” something that you need to have before you can start. If you are not motivated, you cannot start. False! True motivation takes over after starting, motivation is not passive but active.
Getting started is the hardest thing, the task you face seems daunting, that's why you often procrastinate. But once it begins, a flow of satisfaction infuses you with new strength and euphoria, once you start something you been putting off for a long time you realize it wasn't as difficult as you imagined. Why? Because improving makes you feel good, generates confidence and increases your competence, which in turn increases self-esteem. Once you’ve started to do something that brings you closer to the set goal, the process becomes easier and easier. You feel good because you are busy and involved, you are motivated because you are in action.
Once you’ve started, it is easy to keep going.
If you wait for inspiration, you will never start, but know that there are no shortcuts, true success is never instant.
Confidence comes from preparation. The anxiety, the fear, the lack of confidence does not come from who knows where but from the lack of preparation, once you realize that you can prepare yourself, that you can learn techniques to do better and better what you are trying to do, you will naturally always become more confident.
Successful people aren't born with greater willpower, they're just more disciplined. What drives you to success is a combination of passion and perseverance, the ability to work hard and to respond resiliently to failure and adversity. It is not necessary to have a gift, but it’s important to just be yourself and to take all the effort.
When you invest your time and effort, when you progress, when you gain a certain level of skill, you become the thing you are trying to achieve; over time you become what you are doing. At this point you no longer need motivation or willpower – do what you have to do because that's who you are. Without realizing it, you will embrace your routine and not your goal. Every day you will feel good about yourself and this feeling of accomplishment will be the reason to start over the next day.
Success is a simple equation: success = motivation = more success = more motivation
The higher the concentration, the lower the chances of success
Another myth to dispel is that of concentration. To give an example: today you arrived at work on time and brought the children to school on time. Why? Because you didn't have a choice. Having too many choices is a problem because it forces you to decide what you want to do. This is why the power of the routine is so important, when you follow a routine, you stop negotiating with yourself, the routine becomes a task, it is no longer a thing you choose to do, it is simply what you do. Being constantly focused on the final goal is not at all motivating: often the distance between the starting point and the arrival point is too great and demoralizing. Big dreams are useless, they die and turn into regrets without any process to help you achieve them. The key is to set a goal for yourself and form a plan to achieve it, then follow the plan and forget about the goal. What you need to do is dream big, set a big goal, commit to achieving it, create a process that ensures you achieve that goal and then forget about the goal and focus only on the process.
The goal determines the process
Just worry about what you have to do every day, never breaking the chain and you will reach your goal. If your goal is to lose 15 kg in a year, don't think about kilos or a year, instead think about eating 300 fewer calories every day than you consume and after a year you will have reached your goal; if your goal is to write a book, focus on the thousand words you will have to write every day. Once you have chosen your goal you will have to do what is necessary, you cannot lose weight by eating a dessert after every meal, so don't start if you are not willing to pay the price.
How to create a successful process:
Set your goal.
Eliminate decision anxiety by choosing a routine that seems reasonably promising. Customize your process to make it highly specific. Setting a clear and specific goal for each day will automatically give you feedback, irrespective of whether you stick to the plan or not.
Rework your schedule. Many things can change, readjust your schedule to changes in the meantime so that the process is always reliable.
Follow the process. Complete the entire process, the important thing is to respect the program. When you do, congratulate yourself.
Correct programming errors. If you find that something is not working as it should, don't give up, reschedule. Resolve any scheduling issues that occurred.
Results may vary, so adapt accordingly but don't change your process just because you're tired or lazy or bored, only make changes if they increase your chances of achieving ultimate success. Wait for the results to tell you if there is something to change.
The magic words: stop saying, “I can't” and start saying, “I don't”, don't say, “I can't eat sweets” but “I don't eat sweets”. When you say, “I can't” you leave yourself with a way out, “I can't” is based on a decision that depends on external causes while “I don't” comes from within, it is part of your identity, it is who you are.
You can achieve success in different fields, you can be a person who realizes this “and” then that, “and” then another thing.
Don't think it's too late. Success is inevitable only in retrospect, it is never assured in advance, plans are never perfect. What happens is that people do things, they try, they try things that are successful or which fail, they learn from their mistakes, take opportunities and move on trying to live the life that makes them happy.
How to have the most productive mindset ever:
- Stop looking for excuses to do less
- Don't be swayed by the disapproval of others 3. Stop waiting for inspiration
- Stop refusing the help you need
- Stop stopping
How to have willpower without the need for willpower
Willpower isn't something you have or don't have, it's a function of necessity and the more you exercise it the stronger it becomes.
Some tips for achieving a goal without the need for great willpower:
- Eliminate choices as much as possible.
- Do the hardest things first.
- Recharge yourself often.
- Remove temptation completely. Re-elaborate your environment in order to eliminate the possibility of being impulsive, in this way you will not have to exert any willpower (close the jar of candy in the closet, put your jogging shoes in front of the bed so you will wear them as soon as you wake up).
You have to persevere, keep doing the things that make a difference, even if you don't like them. The learning approach must be systematic and constant. Preparation, training, experimentation and continuous refinement – these are the things that will lead you to achieve great things. The key to learning is to make small changes, evaluate the results, discard what doesn't work, and further refine what works.
“There are no shortcuts, the only way is the difficult one.”
“You are not what you think or want to be, you are what you do.”
“Ideas without action are not ideas, they are regrets.”